One of the things I really wanted to understand and upgrade this past summer is my relation to people around me. We live in a very competitive society. I am lucky, really lucky: I just don’t understand competition. I just don’t get it. I never did (to my dad’s despair). it’s not that I can’t handle pressure. I do really good under pressure. I may even do my best then. But I just don’t care about putting myself willingfully into this situation.
The more I am left alone, the best I am. If I feel motivated to do something, I will probaby succeed. But I just won’t put myself in a position to be in competition with someone. I will succeed because I want to do it, and I need, probably to do it.
When in highschool, I did all I could not to be sent in the scientific class. And I really mean all I could. My grades were so bad in physics and biology that they had no choice but to send me in the economics class. Which suited me well. I wanted to go to University anyway (and lucky me, I live in France where you just had to have your baccalaureat to go there (it’s a degree you get to celebrate the end of highschool). I didn’t like the way teachers pushed to be the best and so on during my senior year…. So my grades were just…. realy, really bad. it didn’t matter, as what mattered was the final exam… And I had pretty good grades at it… so I could go to University.
I have a master degree in medieval History…. And y last year was the best one. I was sent in Spain to do researches and write my thesis…. 800km from home. Alone. I had to transcript and translate testaments written 500 years ago and write 150 pages on them. I also had to read books in catalan (never studied it), spanish, english and french (but this last one was easy, as I am french…). Oh, and testaments were obviously written in latin (only took 2 years of it….) and in a medieval cursive…. something like that:
You feel the challenge??? I just LOVED that year. And I had a A+ to my thesis. As I said, leave me alone, give me a challenge and let me have fun.
When I decided to take the competitive exam to be a school teacher, I had a newborn baby, worked full time…. ut you know what? I passed. Because I needed to provide for my child. I worked as uch as I could. I did my best. I couldn’t do more, so when the day to take the tests came, I was in peace. No pressure. I couldn’t have done more. So peace of mind, and I took one day at a time, one test at a time.
As a matter of fact, when I decide to learn something, I just dive into it. And learn. Grow.
At work, I just do all I can for the kids I teach. I try to quickly understand who tehy are and what motivates them. My goal isn’t to have them compete. My goal is to make them discover empathy, to have them help each other because they can. And you now what? They are pretty good at that and their grades are really reflecting it. They want to learn to read because then they can read stories to each other. They are eager to learn to write so that they can write their own stories. They can’t wait to do maths, to learn about the world, because they are curious of what surrounds them. And empathy is a huge thing.
They learn that they can be good at something, really good even, and just share their enthousiasm with their friends.
I teach them that you can be really good and happy. You just don’t need to compare yourself to others. Because you are one of a kind. And with this simple thought comes self esteem. No pressure, just a discovery of our own potential. Something that doesn’t depend on someone else but us. We are all able to do great things (and sometimes, those great things are tiny things…. like caring for each other, respecting each other….).
And you know what, after a few weeks, these seeds become beautiful blooming flowers.
To me, this is realy close to be truly happy.
So here is your challenge:
One card a week 35
Quote: « A flower does not think of competing to the flower next to it. It just blooms. »
Here are the rules of the challenge:
- Each thursday, I’ll give you a quote and a pattern to play with. You can use both, you can use only one of them, it’s up to you.
- You have till the next wednesday to make your card and share it with us in the facebook group (just ask to be added, and I will open the doors wide open to you )
- The goal of this challenge it just to offer yourself a time to have fun with pens and cards, to ponder on words, to enjoy a ME time. We tend to forget about ourselves so easily! And sharing is such a beautiful thing to experiment in our life!
And here is my card